Not bad because it's untrue, but because it's just incidental to something more specific. For example concentrating on your hobbies and getting to know people that way, or finding some new group activity, or spending more time with friends and converting one, or just being in places you enjoy rather than spending time on internet dating is a specific thing to do that works for finding someone compatible. But if you only stop looking, that's not going to work - that's the cause/effect swapped.
It's not incidental. If you think about the attributes of the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, and the attributes you want them to see in you, either implied or explicitly, one of those attributes will most likely be "happy." Most people don't want to seriously date angry/sad/etc people, but who knows. Either way, if dating and "looking" is making you not-happy (which is the sense I got from OP's post), then you need to stop. Because even if you found someone, the odds of them wanting to continue with someone who doesn't come across as happy is nil.
It might be worth clarifying the definition of "happy." I'm not talking about all smiles and shit, you can get angry, even as a "happy person". I mean more like the source of happiness comes from within. Your spouse's job is not to make you happy, no one is on this planet to make you happy. The only person who can make you happy is yourself, so find what brings you joy and do that thing, but try to make it a thing that is around other people doing something similar (not sitting in a house all alone).
If you are happy, content, etc, people will subconsciously seek you out just as we all subconsciously seek out those people to be in our lives. Oh, and get outside your friend group ... like, way outside it. There's a lot more to it than that and I've hand-waved a lot of it, but I'd have to write a book and I really don't want to.
I think you agree with me, we just have a different way of describing this - because I agree with everything you said apart from "It's not incidental" which I'd replace with "that's why it's incidental" :-)
