You asked for a hack: Our culture is messing up your perception of the pool of available men.
500 years ago your possible mating pool was about 50 people, and the most attractive man you'd ever seen lived in your village, and you knew him.
Today advertising and the media is parading hundreds of impossibly attractive people in front of you every day. It messes with your perception of normal, and guys that you know can never measure up to the standards of guys in movies.
The only way out is to know that your standards have been artificially inflated and deliberately lower them.
Next time you go on a date compare the new man to the last 50 or so dates, if he's in the top half then marry him.
500 years ago your possible mating pool was about 50 people, and the most attractive man you'd ever seen lived in your village, and you knew him.
Today advertising and the media is parading hundreds of impossibly attractive people in front of you every day. It messes with your perception of normal, and guys that you know can never measure up to the standards of guys in movies.
The only way out is to know that your standards have been artificially inflated and deliberately lower them.
Next time you go on a date compare the new man to the last 50 or so dates, if he's in the top half then marry him.