In another world, I feel that being thoughtful about how we use language in this way could be a good thing. I might say something, and my counterpart could point out the history of the word and why it might be hurtful to someone, and I would walk away more aware and be more considerate in the future.

Sadly, the reality seems to be that the bleeding edge of sensitive language is more often wielded combatively to try to discredit someone.