All that time, huh?

First kid?

I have a child who is about to turn three who was breastfed. The notion of being aloof until now is unfathomable to me.

Yes, the baby is in fact not feeding most of the time. You can easily find several hours a day during which you can bond with the baby, I'm pretty sure your wife is going to be supportive in this effort.

(It's our second kid)