> If you don’t have any empathy, does that mean you are angry?
I'm not sure how to answer that, except to acknowledge that it isn't directly the case. It's certainly possible to have zero empathy and be perfectly free of anger. In fact, a sustained state of bliss might necessarily involve an absence of empathy...
Perhaps what I was trying to say would be better said by substituting "antidote" for "opposite".
I have been empathically engaged and still angry with someone, in fact, sometimes the empathy can make it worse when you realize the person just will not get with the program. When you understand what they are feeling, but know that to not get passed it will result un more harm for them in the long run.
It's the ugly side of empathy. It can bring people together, and it can sadly reinforce that which splits us apart when communication and trust break down.
> sometimes the empathy can make it worse when you realize the person just will not get with the program.
That sounds more like frustration from wanting the other person to think or act a different way. Empathy would involve setting aside your own feelings and wants for a time so you could experience what the other person is feeling. To do so, you would try to take account of the factors that have lead the other person to this point.
For example, if you saw a mother scold a child unfairly in the supermarket, you might consider factors such as the mother's income or lack thereof, and how difficult it might be for her to have to admit to herself that she can't provide what she thinks her child needs at that point in time. Her frustration gets displaced as anger directed towards the child, but that's not because she has ill will towards the child - its because she has no other way to dissipate the energy at that point.
That's one possible example, but perhaps I'm just not getting what you are saying. Could you give an example of what you mean?
> but that's not because she has ill will towards the child - its because she has no other way to dissipate the energy at that point
I am not sure where you was aiming at, but this sort of logic actually makes people not to intervene in clearly abusive situations. It is also sort of logic that people use to pressure abuse victim to stay in abusive relationships. It is also what makes victims stay in abusive relationship.
The fact is, parent not having ill will deep down is not what is affecting the child. The child is affected by the unfair scolding. Your example is asking for empathy for someone who made you angry (unfair mom), but does not ask empathy for child. Unfair scolding is not end of world nor is it CPS worthy verbal abuse. But the principle is the same.
I came hoping for the same. While these are amazing, in publication reading, one really needs to try it out. Would love to get my hands dirty. Still wait-listed got gpt3 access, but no hope in sight...
I sent them an email with my request. The email address can be found on the CA Attorney General's webpage here https://oag.ca.gov/data-brokers?combine=dt+client I used the form from Epic which is on this page https://epic.org/ccpa/ There are no costs associated with this and they are required to provide the information to you up to two times in a year. Not every business must comply.
Initial results [0] on Moderna’s are on 95 participants in a trial with 30k [1] due to run to 10/22. I’ll be happy to monitor results and ADE rates before taking the plunge although I’m really excited about the promise of mRNA.
Or you should call some old friends. Or hug your kids. Or walk away from the screen and take a walk. Expand your mind beyond IT and rediscover your soul. Explore your spiritual side.
It’s a timeless issue. The year 2020 just brought a few of the elements into sharper focus. COVID is a reminder of what old age will be like. If 2020 is a drag for you, old age will be an absolute disaster for you. If you don’t grow, you’re just yourself in an older body and will live in a worse version of 2020 for the rest of your natural life. Prepping of a different sort is in order.
