BUT: You are MUCH more likely to regret your choice of WHO you have kids with than the kids themselves. Having kids together ties you closely to that person for a very long time (20+ years), whether you like it or not. Think VERY carefully about whether this is what you want with this person.
Do you really know this person?If you were going to die next year, and you had to spend the whole year with one person, is this who you would choose?
Another BUT: At least for me, it took until my child was about 2 years old to feel she is amazing. I regretted it immensely during the first 24 months (I am a male). I have heard a lot of other reports of this anecdotally - for some men, it takes longer to become attached to the baby. It can be disorienting, especially relative to expectations (like other posts here where the love happens at first sight).
All that said, kids are by far the greatest source of happiness, meaning, and pride in my life (which was not at all devoid of those things before the kids).
BUT: You are MUCH more likely to regret your choice of WHO you have kids with than the kids themselves. Having kids together ties you closely to that person for a very long time (20+ years), whether you like it or not. Think VERY carefully about whether this is what you want with this person.
Do you really know this person?If you were going to die next year, and you had to spend the whole year with one person, is this who you would choose?
Another BUT: At least for me, it took until my child was about 2 years old to feel she is amazing. I regretted it immensely during the first 24 months (I am a male). I have heard a lot of other reports of this anecdotally - for some men, it takes longer to become attached to the baby. It can be disorienting, especially relative to expectations (like other posts here where the love happens at first sight).
All that said, kids are by far the greatest source of happiness, meaning, and pride in my life (which was not at all devoid of those things before the kids).