"It takes months to recover and even after that you likely won't be at full performance like you were before the pregnancy.
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Quality of life is also quite terrible for the last while before giving birth, not just because of changes in physical size but also the lack of sleep and what a mental impact that could easily be described as mental illness if it wouldn't coincide with pregnancy."
That's not a typical experience. Please don't cherry pick. Otherwise I can cherry pick the other direction and say my wife was working from the hospital bed, and that there is a video of a woman running a mile or something like that while pregnant with her second child and bearing her prior pregnancy record. I'm so tired of this emotionally driven BS.
"Common side effects like post partum depression can easily linger for years if not given time and treatment."
This is a medical disability and should be handled as such. Same for men suffering from depression or anxiety from the pressures of providing for a family.
"The notion that two people make equal sacrifices when they have a child is laughable."
It's going to vary by situation, but you clearly aren't using a systems thinking approach to see the whole picture. It seems you're stuck on the typical indoctrination material. You still haven't answered anything about the actual topic of alimony. For example, what happens when the woman didn't have a career to begin with and had no real prospects? They didn't sacrifice anything career-wise. Different people have different earning potentials. I believe it's unethical to allow a system where someone can marry and take more from someone else than they could make on their own. I also believe this applies equally.
The extreme emphasis on monetary earnings is precisely the reason alimony exists. Not all labor is paid for with money. Emotional labor, child rearing, homemaking — these are difficult to quantify in monetary terms but certainly play a role in the “success” of the household.
These are also things that both parties generally share in, and that both parties will need to do for themselves after a divorce. Again, there is no reason for an able-bodied person of sound mind to not be able to support themself. Doing away with alimony will remove the flawed incentives that create any unequal balance that we see today. Not to mention, in some states alimony is mandatory after a number of years of marriage- so it has nothing to do with the breakdown of who did more chores or what one deserves.
That's not a typical experience. Please don't cherry pick. Otherwise I can cherry pick the other direction and say my wife was working from the hospital bed, and that there is a video of a woman running a mile or something like that while pregnant with her second child and bearing her prior pregnancy record. I'm so tired of this emotionally driven BS.
"Common side effects like post partum depression can easily linger for years if not given time and treatment."
This is a medical disability and should be handled as such. Same for men suffering from depression or anxiety from the pressures of providing for a family.
"The notion that two people make equal sacrifices when they have a child is laughable."
It's going to vary by situation, but you clearly aren't using a systems thinking approach to see the whole picture. It seems you're stuck on the typical indoctrination material. You still haven't answered anything about the actual topic of alimony. For example, what happens when the woman didn't have a career to begin with and had no real prospects? They didn't sacrifice anything career-wise. Different people have different earning potentials. I believe it's unethical to allow a system where someone can marry and take more from someone else than they could make on their own. I also believe this applies equally.